Online dating makes it easy to chat to new people. No need to be face-to-face, you can instead send messages by typing on your computer’s keyboard whilst sitting down comfortably at home. This new method of reaching out to potential partners is great for those of us who are a little timid, and even better for people who simply don’t have the time to go out to meet new faces. But just because talking through a keyboard or even a webcam is easier doesn’t mean that you will be a successful dater, and as such there are still things you need to know when chatting online.
Try different dating sites
You need to know that not all dating sites are the same. Some sites are there for people to find love whilst other sites are there purely for people to have sex; and this will influence the sort of things you will be saying to other people when you are chatting with them online. For example if you just want to chat about love then try using traditional dating sites; people there will be happy to chat about life and commitment. If you feel attracted towards having sex and you’ve been recommended an adult dating site by a friend, then why not try their dirty chat site to talk about naughty things online? Being in the right place will make a world of difference and you are more likely to find what you are looking for.
Talk but listen
Whether you’re talking love or sex, you should always be a pleasant person to speak to. This means staying polite and being considerate to other people’s needs. You don’t need to do all the talking, in fact you will want to also listen to what the other person says. The more you listen to them the better you can understand their needs. This is great for those of us who are a bit shy and don’t always know what to say. Sure you could just talk and talk but the truth is that you’re not here to have a monologue and what the other person has to say matters a lot.
Know what you want
Ultimately people expect from you that you will have at least some idea of what you want to do, whether it is a serious date in the park or just a specific type of sexual activity. If you’re unsure then write that in your profile, that way other people who are a bit undecided will see that you are similar to them and they will want to contact you. Rather than hesitating, just say that you don’t know what to do and that you are looking around. This still shows you have a sense of direction and it says that you’re up for making discoveries. Ideally you will have some clue as to what you want to do and as long as you’re using the right dating site to approach the right people then you shouldn’t be afraid to say it like it is. Because on the worst case people will just say no; it’s not a huge deal; just move on to the next person.